Yours truly got out of debt in June 2016.  This month, I didn’t have to pay a student loan bill for the first time in over 2 years and I’ll tell you, it felt weird.  But it’s such an amazing feeling.
So here’s what’s crazy.  I just got out of debt.  And I’m going to be going right back into debt again.  You see, Ms. Financial Panther and I are getting married next year and she has $130k in student loan debt.  Ouch!  What’s yours is mine though, right?
I’m not worried however.  We’re both pretty smart (I think), work in high earning professions, and expect to make a very good household income.  But perhaps why I’m so confident that we won’t have this $130k of debt for long is because we’re open about our finances and are on the same page financially.  We’ve been that way ever since we knew this was a serious relationship.
It’s a bit of a taboo to talk about money before you are married (and sometimes even during marriage), but it’s something that I think is necessary if you want to succeed in reaching your financial goals.  Personal finance is personal, no doubt.  When you start out, its an individual sport.  Go out and do what you need to do for yourself.  Once you let someone else into your life though, personal finance becomes a team sport.  For most people, you’ll become a team probably even before you are married. You’ll each have your own goals, your own assets, your own liabilities.  Studies often show that money is the greatest cause for divorce.  Seems like it makes sense to address money head on then, even before you are married, and to make sure you’re both on the same page.
Here’s how Ms. Panther and I made sure we were on the same page from the beginning:
1.  We Were Open About Our Finances Once We Knew Our Relationship Had Legs
Ms. Panther and I had been dating for about 2 years when I started my first job at a large law firm in town.  We both knew that I wasn’t particularly well suited for the big law firm life.  The hours are horrendous.  The work is often mind numbingly boring.  The only thing really good about it is the pay.  There really aren’t a lot of jobs out there that pay six figures to a 26 year old kid with no work experience.
At the time I started my new gig, Ms. Panther and I had been dating for 2 years and had just started sharing an apartment together.  It was the first time I had ever lived with a significant other.  Once we started living together, I thought this was probably going somewhere.  I figured now was as good a time as any for us to really start discussing what we brought to the relationship and where we hoped to go in the future.
The big anchor I had weighing me down was my large student loan debt. Â I had $87k in student loan debt – a not too shabby amount. Â $87k on a standard 10 year repayment plan comes out to about $1000 per month depending on the interest rate. Â Your typical lawyer will take the full 10 years to pay that back, or maybe even drag it out longer. Â There was no way I was going to do that.
I hadn’t gotten onto my personal finance kick yet when I started working . Â I didn’t know what a 401(k) was or what was an asset allocation. Â The only thing I did know was that I had a lot of debt and from everything I had read in the news, student loan debt was bad (especially for lawyers) and I needed to get rid of it quickly. Â I thought it made sense to try to pay it off as fast as I could.
Ms. Panther knew I had this one goal to pay off the debt.  We discussed what I made.  What she expected to make.  What our assets were and what our liabilities were.  She understood my plan to pay off my debt and I understood her plan to pay off her debt.  Once your relationship is serious, it makes sense to be open with your partner about your finances and what you want to achieve.  You don’t want to be surprised later on.  Ms. Panther and I were open books with each other.  I don’t think we’ll be surprised with what we bring to the table once we’re married.
2.  We’ve Stayed On the Same Financial Page
Our financial goals are good to have, but it couldn’t work if we weren’t also on the same page to reach those goals.  The only way to be able to pay my student loans off FAST was to not live like your typical young lawyer.  We couldn’t live in the hippest neighborhood or in an awesome apartment (not at full price anyway).  We had to live like regular people our age.
That wasn’t such a big deal for her actually.  She was still in dental school, so for her, living like a student was the normal course of action.  Of course, you do have a lot of dental students living in the luxury apartments as well.  Either they have rich parents or they take out a lot of student loans.  I guess I don’t really know how they afford it. But I digress.
Ms. Panther made sure to keep us both on the same page.  We moved three times in the past three years (for a number of reasons, we like to check out new neighborhoods and grab rent deals when we see them).  There were a number of times when I suggested a more expensive apartment in a cooler neighborhood.  Ms. Panther shot those down.  She was right. If we wanted to reach our goals, we needed to make sure we were on the same page too.  It’s a team sport!  So far, it’s been working out.
3. Â We’ve Committed To Our Future Goals
I paid off my student loans last month and am coming into our marriage with a clean slate. Â Sweet!
Ms. Panther will be bringing in $130k of student loan debt.  Bummer!  That’s okay though.  When Ms. Panther starts working, we expect she’ll make a high six figure salary, somewhere in the 200k range.  We’ve committed to paying down her debt within 2 years at the most, although we hope to be able to do it even sooner than that.
How will we do it? Â We’ve gotten pretty used to living mainly on my salary. Â As long as we don’t let lifestyle creep take over, we should be able to keep living the way we do now (which is pretty well) and put almost all of her income into her student loans. Â That’s the only way we can do it. Â It’s a doable plan. Â We’ve discussed this goal and committed to it.
So as you can see, I’m not worried about this new $130k of debt!  We’ve got our goal.  We’ve got our plan.  We’ve talked about it.  We’re on the same page.  No surprises in our partnership! If you’re in a serious relationship, make sure the two of you are on the same page even before you are married.  It’ll really help you start off on the right foot.
What do you think?  How do you handle discussing finances before marriage?
More Recommended Ebike/Scooters
Check out these other ebikes and scooters I've reviewed:
- Urban Arrow Ebike – Last year, I made one of the largest purchases I’ve ever made – I bought a $9,000 electric cargo bike from Urban Arrow. In my Urban Arrow review, I will discuss what it is and why I decided to buy this bike, as well as discuss how impactful a bike like this can be on your journey to financial independence.
- Troxus Explorer Step-Thru Ebike – The Troxus Explorer Step-Thru is a fat-tire ebike that I’ve had the pleasure of riding for a while now. It has amazing power, great looks, and awesome range. If you’re looking for a great fat-tire ebike that offers a lot for the price, the Troxus Explorer Step-Thru is definitely one for you to consider. Check out my Troxus Explorer Step-Thru Review.
- Hovsco HovBeta Ebike – The HovBeta is a folding ebike with great specs and a lot of interesting features, and importantly, it’s sold at a good price point. I’ve had a blast commuting with it and using it to do deliveries with DoorDash, Uber Eats, and Grubhub. Check out my Hovsco HovBeta Ebike Review.
- Vanpowers Manidae Ebike – The Vanpowers Manidae is a fat tire ebike that I’ve been riding as my primary winter commuting bike and have also been using it to do food delivery with apps like DoorDash, Uber Eats, and Grubhub. After clocking in a decent number of miles with this ebike, I wanted to write a post sharing what my experience with the Vanpowers Manidae ebike has been like. Check out my Vanpowers Manidae Review.
- KBO Flip Ebike – The KBO Flip is an excellent bike. I’ve had a great time riding it and think it’s a versatile bike that can be used for a lot of purposes and can fit a variety of lifestyles. It’s worked out great for me as a general commuter bike and as a food delivery bike. Check out my KBO Flip Review.
- Hiboy P7 Commuter Ebike – The Hiboy P7 is an excellent electric commuter bike that’s offered at an affordable price point. The range and speed of this bike are both very good, so you won’t have any trouble getting anywhere you need to go with it. As a food delivery vehicle, this is also good – with how much range it offers, you’ll be able to work all day on a single charge. Check out my Hiboy P7 Commuter Electric Bike Review.
- Himiway Escape Ebike – The Himiway Escape is an interesting bike for anyone looking for a moped-style ebike. If you’re a gig economy worker, the Himiway Escape is particularly interesting and it’s possible to think of it as an investment, especially if you can opt to do deliveries with the Himiway versus using a car. It’s not cheap, but you can definitely make your money back when you compare the mileage you’ll put on your car versus using an ebike. Check out my Himiway Escape Bike Review.
- Espin Sport Ebike – The Espin Sport is a good ebike for someone who is looking for an ebike that feels and rides more like a regular bike. There are many ebikes that are really only bikes in name. In reality, they’re basically electric mopeds. The Espin Sport, by contrast, is a bike you could probably ride without the battery and you’d feel like you’re just riding a regular bike. Check out my Espin Sport Review.
- Varla Eagle One Scooter – The Varla Eagle One is an excellent scooter that can make sense for a lot of people. It can work as a primary mode of transportation. You can use it to work on gig economy apps like DoorDash, Uber Eats, and Grubhub. And it can also be a recreational vehicle if you’d prefer to use it for that. Check out my Varla Eagle One Review.
- Varla Falcon Scooter – The Varla Falcon is an excellent scooter that offers a good amount of power at a lower price point compared to more powerful scooters. It’s not exactly an entry-level scooter, nor is it a high-powered scooter. I think it fits somewhere in-between those two categories – an intermediate scooter if I had to give it a category. Check out my Varla Falcon Review.
- Hiboy S2 Scooter – The Hiboy S2 is an excellent entry-level commuter scooter that's perfect for someone looking to save some money in transportation costs and improve their commute. Check out my Hiboy S2 Review.
- Hiboy S2R Scooter – The Hiboy S2R is one of the more interesting electric scooters I’ve been able to test out. It’s not a high-powered scooter, but for an everyday transport option, it’s very useful, especially given some of the unique features that it has. Indeed, for the price, the Hiboy S2R might be the best value scooter I’ve used. Check out my Hiboy S2R Review.
- Fucare H3 Scooter – The Fucare H3 is a fun scooter and I’ve enjoyed testing it out. For a daily commuter or quick trips or errands, the Fucare H3 is probably the scooter I’ll use. It’s portable and easy to maneuver, so it’s just easier to take on the road when I need it. Check out my Fucare H3 Scooter Review.
More Recommended Investing App Bonuses
For additional investing app bonuses, be sure to check out the ones below:
- M1 Finance ($100) – This is a great robo-advisor that has no fees and allows you to create a customized portfolio based on your risk tolerance. You also get $100 for opening an account. Check out my M1 Finance Referral Bonus – Step-By-Step Guide.
- Moomoo (15 free stocks and 1 stock of Tesla or Google) – Moomoo is a free investing app currently offering 3 different referral bonuses if you open an account using a referral link. Read my Moomoo referral bonus guide for more information.
- Webull (12 free stock shares) – Webull's current promotion gives you 12 free shares valued between $3-$3,000 each if you open an account using my referral link. Here’s a guide I wrote about how to earn your free shares using Webull.
- Robinhood (1 free stock) – Robinhood gives you a free stock valued between $2.50-$225 if you open an account using my referral link.
- Public (1 free stock) - Public gives you a free stock valued between $3-$70 if you open an account using my referral link.
- SoFi Invest ($25) – SoFi Invest is an easy brokerage account bonus that you can earn with just a few minutes of work. Use my SoFi Invest referral link, fund your SoFi Invest brokerage account with $100 and you’ll get $25 of free stock. I also have a step-by-step guide for the SoFi Invest referral bonus.
More Recommended Bank Account Bonuses
If you’re looking for more easy bank bonuses, check out the below options. These bonuses are all easy to earn and have no fees or minimum balance requirements to worry about.
- Chime ($150) - Chime is a free bank account that offers a referral bonus if you use a referral link and complete a direct deposit of $200 or more. In practice, any ACH transfer into this account triggers the bonus. This bonus is easy to earn and posts instantly, so you’ll know if you met the requirements as soon as you move money into the account. I wrote a step-by-step guide on how to earn your Chime referral bonus that I recommend you check out.
- SoFi Money ($275) – SoFi Money is a free checking account from SoFi. They’re currently offering a $25 referral bonus if you open a SoFi account with a referral link and deposit $10. You can also make an additional $250 as well if you complete a direct deposit. This is a good bank that is also 100% free, so you won’t have to worry about managing this account. Here’s a post I wrote with instructions on how to earn your SoFi Money bonus: SoFi Money Referral Bonus: Step By Step Guide.
- Upgrade ($150) – Upgrade is a free checking account that’s currently offering a $150 referral bonus if you open an account and complete a direct deposit. These bonus terms are easy to meet, so it’s well worth doing this bonus as soon as you can. Here’s a post I wrote with more details: Upgrade $150 Referral Bonus – Step By Step Directions.
- US Bank Business ($800) – This is a fairly easy bank bonus to earn, since there are no direct deposit requirements. In addition, you can open the Silver Business Checking account, which comes with no monthly fees. Check out how to earn this big bonus here.
- GO2Bank ($100) - GO2Bank is an easy bank bonus that I recommend people take advantage of if they have an easy way of meeting the direct deposit requirement. I like that it’s easy to open the account and that the bonus pays out quickly. Check out my step-by-step guide on how to earn your GO2Bank $100 referral bonus.
- Current ($50) – Current is a free fintech bank that’s offering new users a $50 referral bonus after signing up for an account using a referral link. Current is an easy bonus to earn and also gives you access to three savings accounts that pay you 4% interest on up to $2,000. That means you can put away up to $6,000 earning 4% interest. That’s very good and makes Current an account I recommend to everyone. Check out my step-by-step guide on how to earn your Current Bank bonus.
- Netspend ($40 + 5% Interest Savings Account) – Netspend is a company that provides 5% interest savings accounts. If you sign up using my referral link, you’ll get a $40 signup bonus once you make your first deposit into your Netspend account of $40 or more. That means you get a 5% interest savings account and a free $40 to start! Make sure to check out my in-depth guide on how to set up these accounts.
- Digital Federal Credit Union ($20) – Digital Federal Credit Union (DCU) is a free, nationwide credit union that I recommend to readers for two reasons. First, DCU has a $20 referral bonus if you open a free DCU checking account with a referral link. Second, DCU has a saving account that gives you 6.17% interest on your first $1,000. Check out my in-depth post on how to set this account up.
- Novo Bank ($40) - Novo bank is a free business checking account that’s currently offering a $40 bonus if you open a Novo business checking account using a referral link. In addition to being a good bank bonus, Novo is also a good business checking account. It has no monthly fees or minimum balance requirements and operates a good app and website. Indeed, it’s the business checking account I currently use for this blog. Check out my post on how to easily open a Novo account.
- Varo ($30) – Varo is a free fintech banking app similar to Chime or Current. It’s currently offering a $30 bonus to new users that open a new Varo account with a referral link. The bonus for this bank is very easy to meet, all you need to do is spend $20 within 30 days of opening your Varo account. Check out my step-by-step guide to learn how to earn this bonus.
Kevin is an attorney and the blogger behind Financial Panther, a blog about personal finance, travel hacking, and side hustling using the gig economy. He paid off $87,000 worth of student loans in just 2.5 years by choosing not to live like a big shot lawyer.
Kevin is passionate about earning money using the gig economy and you can see all the ways he makes extra income every month in his side hustle reports.
Kevin is also big on using the latest fintech apps to improve his finances. Some of Kevin's favorite fintech apps include:
- SoFi Money. A really good checking account with absolutely no fees. You'll get a $25 referral bonus if you open a SoFi Money account with a referral link, and an additional $250 if you complete a direct deposit.
- 5% Savings Accounts. I'm currently getting 5.25% interest on my savings through a company called Raisin. Opening a Raisin account takes minutes to complete, it's free, and all of your funds are FDIC-insured. I explain how it works, why I'm now using it to store my emergency fund and any other cash savings I have, and why I recommend everyone check it out in this review.
- US Bank Business. US Bank is currently offering new business customers a $800 signup bonus after opening a new account and meeting certain requirements.
- M1 Finance. This is a great robo-advisor that has no fees and allows you to create a customized portfolio based on your risk tolerance. You also get $100 for opening an account.
- Personal Capital. One of best free apps you can use to monitor your portfolio and track your net worth. This is one of the apps I use to track my financial accounts.
Feel free to send Kevin a message here.
It baffles my mind that people are getting married without totally being on board with each other on finances & money. Money flows into every area of our lives, finances are key to life and future goals. How can you NOT be on the same page?
So anyway, great job to you both for setting out what you’re doing. It really, really helps when you do this and you grow together.
Congrats on getting married, sounds like you 2 will have a great life together.
Tristan
Sounds like you are off to a great start! Like you said, financial disagreements are a common cause for divorce and if you are talking opening about financial issues, that’s a good sign that you are talking openly about most things. Well done!
Lifestyle creep will be the concern to avoid and since you are already aware of this as a watch-out, you should be in good shape. Congrats on the upcoming wedding!
Thanks Jon! Definitely keeping an eye out on the lifestyle creep.
Good points here and I think the key is just being open and honest with each other the whole way. Another good point would be if either one of you doesn’t agree with a certain decision, be sure to speak up about this rather than just going along silently. Having open discussions is always a good idea and allows you to see someone else’s point of view.
Definitely makes sense. We try to be as open as possible and so far haven’t had too many disagreements yet.